How to Achieve Out of Reach Results

In the 1971 song, “It Don’t Come Easy,” Ringo Starr says, “Forget about the past and all your sorrows.”

Change doesn’t come easy. Forgetting the past doesn’t come easy either.

There is a relationship between change and the past that, if understood, unlocks a formula for change.

As children we adapt to the challenges of life. Those adaptations continue to influence our thoughts, decisions, and reactions well into adulthood. In fact, the strategies we develop to survive childhood may never change without some sort of intervention.

When it comes to

• solving chronic life problems,

• adapting to the demands of our adult lives, or

• achieving results beyond our apparent limits,

it don’t come easy.

The adaptations made in childhood or in later years under the pressure of life get in the way of change.

Our adaptive strategies become habits that seem almost impossible to break. At one time, they were adjustments that made sense and kept us out of harm’s way.

But long since, the harm we attempted to avoid became far less of a threat. The original harms and dangers, in most cases, have receded into the past while we marched into adulthood.

Attempting to change without acknowledging and updating our survival strategies leads to frustration.

After enough failed attempts, it’s easy to become convinced that change just isn’t possible.

It doesn’t have to be this way. 

I know change is possible. When I think about who I was even 15 years ago, I barely recognize myself. I’ve been very deliberate about my personal transformation.

Forty years ago, I began my personal development journey. Today I have mastered the art of change and spend my days showing others how to do the same.

Most of us can't wait 40 years for things to change.

So, I created a coaching program that shows my clients exactly how to make the changes they wish to make, solve the problems they haven't been able to solve, and achieve the results that have been out of reach.

The Self-Led Results coaching program follows a process designed to:

·        identify the changes you would make if you could,

·        choose the one linchpin project that would have the biggest impact on your life,

·        help you break out of the cycle that locks you into what you are trying to change,

·        show you how to let go of outdated adaptive strategies, and

·        create a new pattern to make the change sustainable.

Many give up on change because they believe they should be able to use willpower to succeed. When we run out of willpower, we find ourselves resuming the familiar patterns we thought we could change.

Using the Internal Family Systems model, change is possible. With a focused plan to update adaptive strategies, change is sustainable.