IFS VLOG
Read, listen, and watch. Each video is accompanied by a related article or video transcript about how to use the IFS model for your own personal growth and development.
Codependency, Addiction, and IFS
In this vlog, Bill explores the intricacies of relationship problems commonly encountered in coaching sessions, often stemming from codependency or relationship addiction. The discussion references Melody Beattie's work on codependency and elaborates on the characteristics of the 'Nice Guy Syndrome' identified by Robert Glover in 'No More Mr. Nice Guy.' Furthermore, he explores Richard Schwartz's Internal Family Systems (IFS) Model as a method for addressing and healing these deep-seated issues, drawing from both the coach's professional experience and personal recovery journey.
Under the Influence
In this video, I share my personal journey through Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Al-Anon, and other support groups. I discuss how these experiences led me to the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, which helped me understand my true, authentic self. Discover how IFS therapy allowed me to form trust-based relationships with my parts and illuminated a path to genuine recovery from the burdens of my past.
Abstinence Does Not Equal Recovery
Join me as I discuss the crucial difference between mere abstinence and true recovery from addiction. Sharing insights from my 42-year journey of sobriety, I highlight the importance of healing and self-awareness. Through my experiences with Alcoholics Anonymous and learning from Byron Katie's methodologies, I emphasize how internal work is essential for genuine recovery.
The IFS Model, Target Parts, and Concerned Parts
This article and the video associated with it address how, when using the IFS model, to work with target parts and concerned parts. Practitioners and laypersons can learn to improve their practice.
IFS and Recovery
This video explores my journey from being unconsciously driven to making conscious choices, and my quest for an authentic self-recovery through the lens of IFS. Learn how embracing choice can transform your life and lead you to thrive.
How to Care About Self Care
In this video, we explore my article titled 'How to Care About Self Care' through a blend of reading and commentary. I discuss the importance of being present, the significance of self-care, and how the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model can enhance self-awareness.
Managers and Firefighters
In the Internal Family Systems model, we refer to our subpersonalities as “parts.” There are two categories of parts: Exiles and Protectors. Exiled parts are hidden away and are managed and protected by Protector parts. There are two kinds of Protectors: Managers and Firefighters.
Constellations
Constellations are teams of parts that are organized around a shame-based belief formed at some time in the unresolved past. Until that belief is seen as untrue, the pain that the belief causes will continue. Protectors will continue to protect, and exiled parts will continue to be exiled. In this video, I use a whiteboard and Post-it notes to illustrate an example of a constellation of parts.
You Make Me Feel
A common and destructive core belief is that circumstances and other people are responsible for how we feel. This same belief when applied in reverse makes us responsible for how others feel. We know a belief isn’t true when it causes us to suffer. In this short video, I talk about how this belief is at the core of codependent relationships and what to do to change the belief.
Under the Influence and Impact
When I am getting to know a part or working with a client who is getting to know a part of themselves, I usually start with what is already known about the part. What happens when under the influence of (blended with) this part? In this video I talk about how helpful this is, especially when asking about the impact of the blending.
Guided Unblending Meditative Exercise
This meditation guides you through an unblending process, helping you notice and observe the influences of different parts within you, such as your breath, energy, thoughts, emotions, impulses, and actions. By doing so, you can build trust between your authentic Self and your parts, allowing for a more balanced response to challenging situations.
Your Sacred Space
This mediation, written and narrated by Bill Tierney can be used to open group and individual explorations using the IFS model or any other method for accessing your internal world.
The Leadership Coaching Podcast
Podcast episodes where we talk about Internal Family Systems.