IFS VLOG

Read, listen, and watch. Each video is accompanied by a related article or video transcript about how to use the IFS model for your own personal growth and development.

The IFS Model, Target Parts, and Concerned Parts

This article and the video associated with it address how, when using the IFS model, to work with target parts and concerned parts. Practitioners and laypersons can learn to improve their practice.

IFS and Recovery

This video explores my journey from being unconsciously driven to making conscious choices, and my quest for an authentic self-recovery through the lens of IFS. Learn how embracing choice can transform your life and lead you to thrive.

How to Care About Self Care

In this video, we explore my article titled 'How to Care About Self Care' through a blend of reading and commentary. I discuss the importance of being present, the significance of self-care, and how the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model can enhance self-awareness.

Managers and Firefighters

In the Internal Family Systems model, we refer to our subpersonalities as “parts.” There are two categories of parts: Exiles and Protectors. Exiled parts are hidden away and are managed and protected by Protector parts. There are two kinds of Protectors: Managers and Firefighters.

Constellations

Constellations are teams of parts that are organized around a shame-based belief formed at some time in the unresolved past. Until that belief is seen as untrue, the pain that the belief causes will continue. Protectors will continue to protect, and exiled parts will continue to be exiled. In this video, I use a whiteboard and Post-it notes to illustrate an example of a constellation of parts.

You Make Me Feel

A common and destructive core belief is that circumstances and other people are responsible for how we feel. This same belief when applied in reverse makes us responsible for how others feel. We know a belief isn’t true when it causes us to suffer. In this short video, I talk about how this belief is at the core of codependent relationships and what to do to change the belief.

Under the Influence and Impact

When I am getting to know a part or working with a client who is getting to know a part of themselves, I usually start with what is already known about the part. What happens when under the influence of (blended with)this part? In this video I talk about how helpful this is, especially when asking about the impact of the blending.

Guided Unblending Meditative Exercise

This meditation guides you through an unblending process, helping you notice and observe the influences of different parts within you, such as your breath, energy, thoughts, emotions, impulses, and actions. By doing so, you can build trust between your authentic Self and your parts, allowing for a more balanced response to challenging situations.