You Can Have The Life You Want
As a younger man, I felt like a fraud, I was insecure and was unhappy with my life. I lived an automatic life completely unaware of my own power and responsibility.
With the help of mentors, and coaches, I have experienced a deep level of healing and recovery. Now I work with clients with similar challenges so they can move beyond enduring, tolerating, and surviving their lives to clarity, purpose and joy.
My clients have often been wildly successful to all appearances. But many of them struggled with an inner turmoil that prevented them from enjoying the fruits of their success.
Start with a free phone call or video conference.
Try on my coaching philosophy
If you want to keep talking, I will offer you a complimentary coaching session. If it makes sense to you, let’s keep talking. If not, we may not be a good fit.
Make a commitment
You can’t expect things to change overnight. It’s taken a lifetime to form the habits that create the results you’re getting. You will be asked to commit to at least 12 coaching sessions.
Do the work
Be prepared to do your personal development work between coaching sessions. As you remember who you really are, invest your time and energy in your own personal transformation.
Claim your Power!
Learning to live with Power can be a surprising challenge. But one you will happily take on.
I tried to create a sense of value and worth by working hard. I tried to feel a part of the crowd by doing what the crowd did. I felt like a fraud.
I used addictions to cope with an unfulfilled life. I was insecure and didn’t trust my wife to be faithful despite a total absence of evidence. I almost drove her away with my strategies for preventing her from abandoning me.
When I thought she was about to take the kids and leave me, I began attending 12 step meetings. Almost immediately, the 12 step social scene became my new addiction with up to 3 meetings a day. She liked me better before I “recovered.”
I stayed sober. I didn’t drink. But I was lost, confused, frightened, angry and upset most of the time. I became even more insecure. My wife died of a brain tumor when I was 7 years sober and left me with our two children who were 8 and 9 years old.
Life was happening to me. I remained abstinent during her illness and after her death but found another addiction to help put a cushion between me and my pain. I found crazy, addictive, codependent relationships with half a dozen women who I met in 12 step meetings over the next 2 years.
I wanted abstinence and the steps to make it all better. I worked the 12 steps to the best of my willingness and ability but continued to struggle and suffer. Two years after my first wife died, I married my second wife so I might interrupt the insane dramatic cycle of new relationships.
We had a daughter and built a house together. Like the other women I had gotten involved with, my second wife was in and out of recovery for addiction. We tried our best but only managed to make each other miserable for 8 years before I ended the marriage.
Afraid that I may just resume my addiction to relationships, I committed to personal development. I stayed single for 13 years. During that time, I discovered The Work of Byron Katie, Life Coaching, and Internal Family Systems Therapy.
In 2013 I remarried for the last time. Thanks to the deep and lasting healing work that I had done to that point, I found someone who is as kind and sane as I had become. We enjoy a happy, healthy and authentic life together.
I began my coaching career in 2011 after hiring my first life coach, Carlos Jones. Carlos told me how he had been trained to be a life coach and I followed his path by completing a one year life coach training program in 2016.
In 2019, with the support and urging of my therapist, I was accepted into a one year training to become an Internal Family Systems Practitioner. I completed Level 1 IFS training in June of 2020 and completed Level 2 the same year. I am now in the process of becoming a Certified IFS Practitioner and can be found in the IFS Practitioner Directory on the IFS website, www.IFS-Institute.com
Bloomsday with 40,000 of my Closest Friends
I help my clients transform from self-doubt to confidence and connection.
Bill and Kathy Tierney
Montana Float Trip
Hiking with my friends Chad, Ryan, and Ken