What I Thought I Knew

What I Thought I Knew

I had been a mortgage loan officer for 15 years. I had survived the financial crisis and mortgage meltdown of 2008-2009 and emerged more determined, more focused, more educated, and more careful. At my lowest point, I knew it was either time to find another career or...
Press On or Time for a Break?

Press On or Time for a Break?

Photo by Kat Jayne from Pexels Over the years, I’ve read or heard a sentiment expressed that if the conditions of your life are challenging, learn to love them before making any changes. Or something to that effect. There is some merit to this idea. If I just cut and...
Your Automatic Life

Your Automatic Life

Photo by Alex Knight from Pexels The conscious brain occupies 17 percent of total brain mass (about one-sixth of the brain’s weight), yet controls only 2 to 4 percent of actual perceptions or behavior. The nonconscious brain occupies 83 percent (about five-sixths) of...
I’m not trying hard enough

I’m not trying hard enough

What are you trying hard to do?   Today is day 25 of my 30 day thought diet.   I was inspired to make this commitment after waking up at 5 AM in Kauai 25 days ago with anxiety and no present justification for it.  I got out of bed and began listing all of my thoughts,...
What to do When it’s Hard to Decide

What to do When it’s Hard to Decide

As a coach, when a client comes to me with a problem, I am tempted to try to resolve the problem for them.  But this is rarely helpful.  Solving the problem for a client is like feeding a man a fish.  My clients think they want me to solve their problems.  But what...