Updating Your Internal Operating System

Updating Your Internal Operating System

Photo by Kirill Lazarev from Pexels Prior to learning about IFS, I expected myself to be clear, decisive, certain, and single minded. Of course, there were times when I was confused, unable to make decisions or stick to them, unsure, and conflicted. The contrast...
Give Them a Day Pass

Give Them a Day Pass

Photo by Suzy Hazelwood from Pexels There are people in my life who I put in jail. At some point in my life, our paths crossed, and I got hurt. I blamed them for my pain and locked them away for life so they could never hurt me again. Many of the people I locked away...
Not Broken

Not Broken

Photo by Ikowh Babayev from Pexels We’re not really broken. I know it can feel that way.  It can feel hopeless. But it’s not. You can break the cycle. Doing so may be the most important thing you ever do in your life. I came from a long line of...
Texting Trigger

Texting Trigger

Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels When I woke up Friday morning I checked my phone and noticed a preview of a text which included the words, “you are lying to me.”  I assumed someone must have been drunk texting the wrong number. “This should be fun,” I thought....
What I Thought I Knew

What I Thought I Knew

I had been a mortgage loan officer for 15 years. I had survived the financial crisis and mortgage meltdown of 2008-2009 and emerged more determined, more focused, more educated, and more careful. At my lowest point, I knew it was either time to find another career or...