Trust Yourself

Trust Yourself

Photo by Lucas Pezeta from Pexels I tell clients that I believe they are the most qualified experts when it comes to how to live their lives. Despite the temptation to believe that there are others who may have better ideas about how to live a good life, each life is...
Updating Your Internal Operating System

Updating Your Internal Operating System

Photo by Kirill Lazarev from Pexels Prior to learning about IFS, I expected myself to be clear, decisive, certain, and single minded. Of course, there were times when I was confused, unable to make decisions or stick to them, unsure, and conflicted. The contrast...
Reclaiming Power and Choice

Reclaiming Power and Choice

Photo by Avery Nielsen-Webb from Pexels “When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor Frankl   If you had the power to change your life, would you? Whether you have power or not isn’t as important as whether...
Hijacked by a Part of Me

Hijacked by a Part of Me

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” ― Maya Angelou   It was very pleasant this morning on our back patio. I was enjoying “You are the one you have been waiting for” by Richard Schwartz. Prior to getting my cup of...
What makes a good relationship good?

What makes a good relationship good?

Just for fun imagine that, after getting to know your partner well enough to recognize that you were interested in them, they told you they wanted to talk. Let’s create a couple for this imagination. Meet Pat and Taylor. Feel free to assign gender roles as you wish. A...