Updating Your Internal Operating System

Updating Your Internal Operating System

Photo by Kirill Lazarev from Pexels Prior to learning about IFS, I expected myself to be clear, decisive, certain, and single minded. Of course, there were times when I was confused, unable to make decisions or stick to them, unsure, and conflicted. The contrast...
Give Them a Day Pass

Give Them a Day Pass

Photo by Suzy Hazelwood from Pexels There are people in my life who I put in jail. At some point in my life, our paths crossed, and I got hurt. I blamed them for my pain and locked them away for life so they could never hurt me again. Many of the people I locked away...
Making Clear Choices

Making Clear Choices

There are times when making decisions or commitments is easy. Making hard decisions often comes down to the “lesser of two evils,” a coin toss, or simply forcing ourselves to do what feels like the right thing to do. How do you make hard decisions or solve dilemmas?...
Fixing the Unfixable

Fixing the Unfixable

Photo by Thiago Matos from Pexels Many who grew up in scary and unsafe homes believe they are broken and unfixable. Here’s what I believe. You, me, and everyone else were born as perfect, whole, and complete human beings. But some of us were born into lives that had...
The ACA Laundry List, Trait One

The ACA Laundry List, Trait One

Photo by Amine M’Siouri from Pexels About 40 years after Alcoholics Anonymous was founded, a new recovery program was created. Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA or ACoA) was created to provide support for members of the Alateen...