Fixing the Unfixable

Fixing the Unfixable

Photo by Thiago Matos from Pexels Many who grew up in scary and unsafe homes believe they are broken and unfixable. Here’s what I believe. You, me, and everyone else were born as perfect, whole, and complete human beings. But some of us were born into lives that had...
Approval.  The Consolation Prize

Approval. The Consolation Prize

Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels I heard Byron Katie say that if she had a prayer, it would be, “God save me from the pursuit of love, approval and appreciation.” That got my attention. She went on to say that the effort we put into getting love, approval, or...
Fear of Rejection, Abandonment, Conflict, or Criticism

Fear of Rejection, Abandonment, Conflict, or Criticism

We are able to feel fear because fear can help us quickly and efficiently act to avoid harm or death when there is a real threat to our safety.  But living with fear of rejection, abandonment, conflict, or criticism does just the opposite.  This kind of chronic,...