Addiction Recovery Coaching
Most of us know someone who struggles with addiction. Many of us either have an addiction issue ourselves or have in the past. After 38 years of successful addiction recovery, I’ve learned some things. I don’t have the answers for anyone else, but I ask some pretty impactful questions.
Addiction and trauma go hand in hand. If you are ready to do something about your addiction, let’s talk. I won’t send you to a 12-step group, but I won’t stop you if you want to go. I won’t send you to treatment but I won’t try to stop you from going. I won’t shame you if you struggle to stop using, drinking, or acting out
I approach addiction assertively but with compassion. Are you ready to face the truth with honesty and integrity? Are you ready to reclaim your power and choice?
Business Owner Coaching
Business owners face a unique set of challenges. Where to focus attention, time, money, and effort? When to let go when those plans don’t work? Who to trust? How much to do on your own and what to delegate? Grow or shrink? Dealing with uncertainty in the market. Competing on price or quality. Knowing your target market. Dealing with bad customer reviews and problem employees. Finding enough help. Knowing when to stop. Finding motivation after disappointment.
I’m not a business coach. I am a business owner. I understand some things about business because I am in business. I’ve also read books and have applied some of what I learned. But if, as a business owner, you need someone to tell you what to do to turn a profit, I’m not your coach.
If you feel overwhelmed and uncertain, I can help. By resolving inner conflict and accessing clarity and confidence, business owners can be both profitable and personally content.
Corporate Executive Coaching
Our ability to access the highest version of ourselves determines the results we get and the experience we have while getting those results.
Executives often find themselves stuck between the demands of superiors, the pressures of the job, managing team dynamics, and the desire to experience satisfaction in their careers. While juggling responsibilities at work along with family and social obligations, life can feel overwhelming.
Emotions can easily take over and sabotage the highest and best intentions, leaving you feeling incompetent and overwhelmed. IFS-informed coaching helps sort all of this out and can facilitate access to much needed internal resources that seem to disappear when we need them the most.
Using the Internal Family Systems model, I work with couples to restore connection and communication.
Relationships can be challenging and rewarding. Relationships can also be the apparent source of joy or misery. Look at your most significant relationship. How you react to your partner is mostly automatic. How you react is determined by how you see them and what it means to you that they are who they are and do what they do. Without self-awareness, your view and your reactions are predetermined.
Although it can often feel like the only answer, trying to change the other to alleviate your suffering or increase fulfillment does not work because the healing must begin within. Self-discovery leads to self-awareness and changes your view. I help my clients discover who they are and who they are not and I help couples make decisions about their relationships from a place of power rather than conflict.
The Self-Led Project is a group coaching program I designed to work with up to 12 participants at a time in a group setting. Sessions are 90 minutes long. Groups meet weekly for 12 sessions for each of the three modules in the program. The Self-Led Project is inspired by the Internal Family Systems model. Its purpose is to help participants develop internal leadership which enables them to get external results that match their purpose and passion.
Group Coaching offers a powerful dynamic that isn’t experienced with individual coaching. The Self-Led Project group provides a safe and structured environment where you and all your parts feel welcome. Participants benefit from the insights, discoveries, and experiences of their peers and very quickly develop a sense of connection and belonging.
The coaching relationship with individual clients adapts to the needs and objectives of the client. One-on-one coaching is for individuals who want to get different results in life and who are willing to actively engage in the personal development journey.
When coaching individuals, I draw from a broad set of tools, concepts, distinctions, and exercises informed by the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model and The Work of Byron Katie. I also use my training and experience in mindset coaching and project design for setting objectives, identifying effective strategies, and holding curious space and compassionate support for client breakdowns.
Internal Family Systems
I am a Certified Internal Family Systems Practitioner which means that I have participated in training, consultation, and demonstration of my aptitude in facilitating the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model (IFS-Institute.com). As a personal development coach, I have never found a more effective approach than IFS to help my clients live as the highest version of themselves.
This is important because when we try to show up the way we think we should, we lack confidence. When operating from a fabricated and polished version of ourselves, we doubt ourselves and fear being exposed. IFS helps my clients think, feel, and act as their authentic and innately powerful Selves.
While I still use the scaffolding and structure of traditional mindset and accountability coaching, I often lean on what I have learned about our inner world of subpersonalities or “parts”. When my clients find themselves in disempowering patterns, I help them connect with parts of themselves that are probably invested in the repeated pattern. When my clients are faced with ambiguity, I use IFS to help them gain clarity. The benefits of using IFS in coaching are deep and broad and create real possibility without compromise or excessive effort.
I had been abstinent from alcohol and other mood altering drugs for over 20 years before I realized how to work with my thinking to influence my own life in an empowering way. I noticed that how I felt influenced what I could do. Further, I learned that what I felt was often influenced by what I thought. Using The Work of Byron Katie (TheWork.com), I learned how to influence my actions by challenging my thoughts.
Thoughts, when repeated often enough become beliefs. Beliefs are not especially true, but they occur as true and influence how we perceive the circumstances of our lives. By helping my clients become aware of and change their beliefs, they change how they feel and what they do.
When life isn’t working, the ability to change your mindset can be your greatest asset.
I work with high functioning individuals who have been on the personal development journey long enough to value the support of someone who will challenge them to show up as the highest version of themselves.
These individuals have some awareness of the relationship between internal conditions and external experiences. There is a desire to expand self-awareness. Common goals for these individuals include problem solving, gaining traction, and developing their aptitude in any category of life.
I also work with seasoned travelers on the personal development journey. These individuals have an increased level of self-awareness and humility. They often wish to expand their capacity for the demands and opportunities of life. Common goals for these individuals include goal setting and accountability as well as personal development and transformation. There is a willingness to honestly look inside for what gets in the way of full self-expression.
Webinars and Workshops
All webinars and workshops are offered via Zoom video conferencing. Check my online calendar for current offerings.
I have designed and presented several webinars and workshops over the years. I design them to provide valuable information and experiences that provide insight, motivation, and resources for change and personal development.
Is This All There Is?
A webinar about turning disappointments into inspired action
- Identify why you feel something is missing in one or more areas of your life
- Understand what causes this feeling
- Explore strategies you have employed to manage this condition
- Identify actions to resolve the sense of dissatisfaction
This is a 2-hour interactive live webinar. Find dates, times, and cost and register here.