How are you?

It’s a greeting more than a question.  But it’s still a question.

Both the question and the answer are usually automatic.

Want to create an awkward moment?  Answer How ya doin? with a real answer.


What’s your automatic answer to How are you?





Getting by.



How you doin?




What’s How are you mean to you?


Are you making progress?

Are you done yet?

Do you need my help?

You’re doing it wrong.

Are you OK?

Are you upset?

Is everything alright?

Am I in trouble?

Are you upset with me?

Am I safe?

Are you approachable?

How am I doing? (also the codependent greeting)


I was listening to a Brooke Castillo podcast recently (The Life Coach School Podcast).  She said that when something is said, there are 4 versions of what is said:

  1. What is said.
  2. What is meant by what is said.
  3. What is heard.
  4. What the listener made it mean.


What do you mean by How are you when you ask it?

What do you make it mean when someone asks you?

What do you mean by your answer to How are you?

What does the other person make your answer mean?


How are you communicating?


In my team building communication workshops, we discuss giving and receiving feedback, the art of listening, shifting from victim to creator, asking good questions, asking for help and saying no.  If you would like to learn more about how I can help your team with empowering workshops, please contact me.