In any relationship there are times to talk and times not to. If you are mentally present and open, it may be time to talk. If you are distracted or triggered its not. How do you know if you are mentally present? Your mind is on what is happening now.  What is being...

Uncertainty Institutional Mistrust Misinformation Loneliness Change Insecurity Intimacy Issues Job and Income loss If you're scared, that makes sense. Will you respond to your fear with hatred and blame? Or with love and compassion? Our automatic lives are no longer...

Most of us know someone who is struggling with addiction issues.  How to recover from an addiction is not an exact science.  There are countless approaches, most with some success.  There is an entire addiction recovery industry that exists to address the issue. Why...

I created a tool that was inspired by Esther and Jerry Hicks in their book, Ask and it is Given, The Teachings of Abraham. I named the tool Climb the Ladder because by using it, I and my clients are able to use it to quickly climb to an empowered state before taking...

What do you endure in your life?  What do you tolerate?   What do you survive? Your daughters drill team performance that goes on for hours. Your son’s attitude toward you. Your job, business or career that pays the bills but drains your lust for life. A relationship...

I’m certainly not the first person to think of feelings as an internal guidance system.  When I was first introduced to the idea, it thrilled me to consider that I could trust myself.  I loved the thought that I had an internal mechanism to guide me and wanted to...

A few months back I got a call from an old friend, Clyde.  In 1978 I was an assistant store manager for Rosauer’s, a local food store chain.  I hired Clyde when he was 16 years old as a courtesy clerk.  We’ve stayed in touch over the years.  Today Clyde works for...

What is True Self Leadership? You, like many people, may be in the habit of attempting to manage and control aspects of yourself that you don’t like.  This effort to minimize and control who we are creates an internal tension or pressure.  From time to time, life...

Life’s challenges can provide plenty of opportunity for growth or they can overwhelm us. If you have a growth mindset, challenges provide new opportunities to change and grow.  Challenges can inspire innovation and courageous risk taking.  Challenging circumstances...

What causes emotional pain? A belief system is a system of thoughts that we have decided are true.  For the most part, our beliefs are hidden from us.  When we are introduced to a concept or idea, we compare that concept or idea to embedded and accepted thoughts...

After completing a one-year coach training program, my confidence was at an all-time low and I seriously considered quitting my Life Coaching career.  A part of me was convinced that I was a fool to think I could be a successful life coach. In 2011, while working as a...

No time to read this article?   Listen to it instead. Fear.  What do you do when you are feeling it?   Does it stop you?   Do you work around it?  Does it limit you?  Do you push your way past it? In the coaching world, one of our jobs as coaches is to help our...

What do you expect your life to look like in a year? What do you hope your life will be like in a year? What we expect is based on what is happening now and what has happened in the past.  For many of us, what is happening now is a version of what has happened in the...

I’m not proud of this. But I used to complain about my life. A lot. I’ve often wondered why I complained so much. Eventually, I realized that complaining is a leftover from my childhood when I was entirely and naturally dependent.  You can read more about that in...

About 25 years ago, I stepped away from the living of my life far enough to make a profound observation.   I saw that my life consisted of a series of reactions to the circumstances in my life. Further, I realized that I was reacting to my interpretations of those...

Harry was referred to me by the doctor who employed him.  He joined Breakthrough Success Club when his boss offered to pay for his coaching.  But when his children’s mother decided to move to another state, he quit his job and followed them there to be in their...

What is the value of a reliable and loyal referral source? When receiving a warm referral, you have an overwhelming advantage over the competition. Unless a business already has a sufficient demand for their services, it is crucial to develop relationships with others...

Life can often feel like the arcade game, Whack-a-Mole.  A problem shows up, we whack it and then wait for the next one to show up so we can whack it before the next one shows up so we can… whack it! This is a game that cannot be won. But it’s the game most of us play...

For most of us, there is a big gap between what we really want in life and what we are settling for. Why do we do this? What kind of breakthrough would help you begin living the life that you really want? Think of thoughts as the tip of the iceberg - the part that you...

The decision to refer usually happens in a moment. The decision to not refer happens just as quickly. But there is an internal process that usually goes undetected leading up to that moment. Why do you refer? Think about the last time you gave a referral. Why did you...

The appointment was set for 9:00 AM. First impressions are important. This was to be our first connection. I called the number the prospect provided but it was the wrong number. I was prepared for this call. I allowed plenty of time. Had the phone number in front of...

I spoke with a client last week whose current employer had made it difficult for her to stay.  She had been working under increasing pressure to perform under impossible circumstances. Her well-being and family life had suffered and she was on her way to a major...