My purpose as a personal development coach and IFS Practitioner is to help others awaken to their true nature. I believe that who we are and who have always been becomes concealed behind layers of false beliefs and trapped feelings. We draw erroneous conclusions about the painful and scary events of life and become too frightened to allow ourselves to release our hurt and terror.
We hide who we really are for our own safety and go about constructing a more acceptable version of ourselves.
We reason that we are imperfect, unlovable, damaged, and not enough. We spend our lives working hard to make up for our perceived shortcomings and faults. Scrambling to be good enough. Hungry for the breadcrumbs of love, acceptance, and the approval of others.
In the soft and safe moments of life, in times of unshielded joy, in peak experiences in the zone, we get an occasional glimpse of who we really are and of the perfection of our existence.
But for some of us, those times are rare and fleeting. We have become lost and are afraid to admit to our confusion and fear.
I have discovered a path back to myself. I am waking up. Remembering who I am requires a persistent commitment to use my troubles to reveal the truth.
I invite you to join me on this journey of self-discovery.
You are not alone on this path. There are many others who are learning to turn their focus inward one upset, one disappointment, one hurt at a time.
You can count on life to offer plenty of opportunities to emerge from exile. The first step is to use the disempowering events of your life to change your perspective. Despite appearances, the circumstances of your life are not responsible for how you feel, how you react, and the consequences of those reactions. Your view of these circumstances determines your experience.
Changing your perspective will require you to turn your gaze inward. Rather than focusing externally on the apparent cause of your experience, you can form the habit of internal observation and management.
I use the Work of Byron Katie (www.TheWork.com), Internal Family Systems (www.IFS-Institute.com), and many original innovative mindset tools to help my clients on their journeys to True Self.
I live in Liberty Lake Washington with my wife Kathy. I have lived in the Northwest since 1970 and have been in the Personal Development Coaching Business since 2011. I had my first IFS therapy session in 2016 and began training as an IFS practitioner in 2018. Together, Kathy and I have 6 children and 12 grandchildren.