Updating Your Internal Operating System

Updating Your Internal Operating System

Photo by Kirill Lazarev from Pexels Prior to learning about IFS, I expected myself to be clear, decisive, certain, and single minded. Of course, there were times when I was confused, unable to make decisions or stick to them, unsure, and conflicted. The contrast...
Reclaiming Power and Choice

Reclaiming Power and Choice

Photo by Avery Nielsen-Webb from Pexels “When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor Frankl   If you had the power to change your life, would you? Whether you have power or not isn’t as important as whether...
Active Grief

Active Grief

Photo by Johannes Plenio from Pexels With loss comes grief. If you have experienced a loss, have you experienced active grief or have you experienced passive grief? When something changes or ends, or when something happens that scares you or hurts you, there can be a...
Hijacked by a Part of Me

Hijacked by a Part of Me

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” ― Maya Angelou   It was very pleasant this morning on our back patio. I was enjoying “You are the one you have been waiting for” by Richard Schwartz. Prior to getting my cup of...
What makes a good relationship good?

What makes a good relationship good?

Just for fun imagine that, after getting to know your partner well enough to recognize that you were interested in them, they told you they wanted to talk. Let’s create a couple for this imagination. Meet Pat and Taylor. Feel free to assign gender roles as you wish. A...